I don't know whether to confess this or not, but I will go ahead. I haven't shared this thing with my close friends or my family yet. I completed my B. Tech. from the old IIT one year back and now working. It was the month of Nov and our end sems were in progress at that time (it was in my third year). We group of friends were sitting in MB (it’s the place in our insti) in the evening, abusing profs, insti, courses, rggiri, machaus and lot of such stuff. We then decided that we will do some crazy things today (in the night) to let our frustration out and will tell each other on the other day! Many of my friends told that they will abuse profs from anonymous number, some told they will go to H10 in the night and so on. Next day when my friends asked me what I did previous night, I told them that I had a kingfisher in one go and then went to bed. And then we became busy in our end sem and these things never came out later in our talks. But what I actually did that night, I still regret. At that night I was looking for something strange and crazy! After thinking a lot; I made my mind that I would make my profile on a matrimony site and will date NRI girls. I don't know how this thought came in my mind, it was not the lust for girls or something like that but it was the craziness which pulled me into it. I made sure that my profile looks authentic, I even put my real name, pics, my family background, and caste and all stuff and made a separate email id for it. I pretended myself as a professional working in a MNC in Mumbai with a big salary who has graduated from iit recently. Later on I bought a new number (also a new mobile) and provided it in my contact numbers on the site. I made sure that everything looks genuine.
And then I started searching profiles of NRI girls and expressed interest in them. Later on my profile also got interests from NRI girls whom profiles were made by their parents. I used to look at their pics and then note down their contact numbers and then their email ids. Then I tried adding them in my contact list. Thus whenever their parents requested for further contacts I used to decline their profiles. These things were not regular but were somehow on weekend’s basis. It was the month of Jan, after semester registration when I got interest in my profile from a girl. She herself has created her profile. She was working in a pharmaceutical company at that time in Hauppauge in New York, US. She showed interest as I was from the same cast and from same state (and yes same hometown!). I didn’t reply to her interest as she was not too beautiful and her profile pics were average. Meanwhile I succeeded in getting gmail ids of some NRI girls and added them in my contact list. In this way I used to chat with them about education, likes, dislikes family and other stuff. But later on when they asked me to go ahead one step further (parents’ contact number, reference person, facebook account, linkedin id of mine n all) I tried to avoid them. Somehow they figured it out that I am not looking for genuine relationship and was doing this stuff all for fun, they blocked my email id.
Later on, that girl from New York sent me a reminder on my profile. This time I accepted her interest and started chatting by exchanging email ids. I figured out later that she was on facebook and was having a genuine profile on matrimony site. Then I blocked her on my facebook account before she can figure me out there.
Initially we chatted through matrimony site and later on with our email ids. I somehow convinced her that I am not on social media (facebook, linkedIn). Initially we used to chat like how we decided to put our profile on matrimony site for a big decision like a marriage and so on. Then about our education, families and all. I even also shared my fake employer and my address with her. I came to know that she completed her studies from Mumbai and was doing job in New York at that time since one and half years. Meanwhile she also told me that her cousin sister has completed her M.tech some years back from the same institute and she had visited the campus a couple of times in institute’s cultural fest (this time I feared that she will figure me out but came to know that her cousin graduated from the institute even before I got admission in it). Things went ahead like that and one day she asked me if she can call me on my mobile. First time I felt that things are going wrong and I should step back, but then I gave her my consent for the call and asked her to call me on my matrimony mobile number as I thought it would have fun and there is nothing wrong about it. She called me on the weekend and we talked for 3-4 minutes. Thus she started calling me on weekends and also have chats every alternate days. I also called her back a couple of times. As she was in US, I used to chat with her late in the night. At many occasions I went to lab for chatting as we were having LAN ban after midnight. Thus things went ahead and we did all this stuff for next 3-4 months. When my intern time came, I decided that I will go to New York in my internship and will meet her. But this didn’t work as I couldn’t get foreign intern.
In my fourth year she was going home (coming to India) to her sister’s marriage and asked me if I can also come to the hometown at the same time and if we and our parents can meet. But at that time I convinced her that I will be on official tour in some metro and will not be able to make it.
We were in touch on regular basis and she started calling me after every 2-3 days. Things went like this for couple of months. I don’t know if she was serious and completely in love with me or not but I was happy as friends and wing mates came to know that one NRI girl from my hometown is my girlfriend now. She even removed her profile from matrimony site and also asked me to remove it as we were in the serious relationship. But I convinced her that I won’t look for other profiles and will remove my profile soon. One day she asked me for video calling on Skype. I feared that she will figure me out that I am a student and staying in hostel. Also my roommate will also come to know. Then I decided that whenever I will have a video chat with her on Skype I will move to my computer lab and told her that I was calling from my office. Meanwhile she also told me that her parents asked for two proposals of NRI doctors but she refused them and she had shown my pics to her parents and they liked it. Her parents were happy that I was from the same caste and city.
These things went for some more months and I was talking to her for more than seven months.
One day she called me in the afternoon (I was in the lecture at that day and it was midnight in the US) and told me that she is coming to India in next month (for Diwali) and wants to meet me this time. She also told me that she will first come to Mumbai from US to meet me and her college friends and then will go to hometown. She also asked me to come to my hometown so that our parents can meet this time on the Diwali occasion. I was shocked for the same but I agreed. We also had chat that day; she was coming in the third week of October, 23 days from that day.
We talked every alternate day on phone for these days and she was excited that I will also be coming to my hometown on the Diwali and will meet her parents. She even identified a restaurant in Mumbai where we would spend our time before she would fly to our hometown.
A day before her flight she called me and asked me to receive her on the airport. I agreed to it. That night I was too much tensed as I had to go airport to receive her. I feared that how I will face her and what I will tell her. My friends thought that it was the end semester and the upcoming placements which had worried me.
She didn’t call me the other day before she boarded her flight, but in boxed me two messages:
reached airport, ready to fly. love you!! (It was delivered late in the night)
landed at dubai. will reach Mumbai @ 2:30, see you at airport. Hugs n kisses! (It was delivered at 9:16 am in my mobile on next day)
I was in my hostel room when I received her messages. I didn’t reply her when I read her messages. I was worried and confused that what I would do next. I sat for half an hour in my hostel room and then came out of it, went to MB (where it all started) and then to lake side. I spent 20-25 minutes there and came back to my hostel room. I switched off my mobile (matrimonial mobile); broke the sim card, opened my laptop and blocked her on my email id and removed my profile from the matrimony site. I don’t know why I did those things but it was just that whatever came in my mind at that time I did it. Even today, I don’t know what happened afterwards when she arrived in Mumbai.
After this, I was not feeling good for three-four days. I even didn’t go to my home on Diwali in spite of my railway reservations. I lied to my parents that I need to focus on my upcoming placements. After few days I involved myself fully in studies, deadlines for submission of course projects and other things.
Later on I got busy in my exams, placements, celebrations for getting a job on seventh day and then in BTP. At sometimes I thought I would login and check my fake gmail id but I kept myself away from doing it.
Before 3-4 days of leaving the hostel (completion of B. Tech.) I made my mind that I would check my fake gmail id and her facebook account and also it had been more than seven months of her arrival day in Mumbai, so everything would be normal. I was shocked when I saw her status on gmail and fb as:
“Jatane ki baat nahi thi, unke dil tak jaana tha….. Lambi doori tayh karne me waqt to lagta hae. why you betrayed me….what I did wrong to you”
The date of updating the above status on fb was five months back.
But then I decided I won’t think about this too much and will move on. I completed my B. Tech. and then joined the firm where I was placed. I never thought much about it after I started my corporate life.
Today I came to know about our institute’s convocation in August month through my friend. This coming event reminded of my college days. And again I made my mind that I would login my that fake gmail id. I was feeling very bad when I found that her (girl’s) status was still same (till today!) as it was 13 months back.
“Jatane ki baat nahi thi, unke dil tak jaana tha….. Lambi doori tayh karne me waqt to lagta hae. why you betrayed me….what I did wrong to you”
I don’t know what has happened to that girl, she got married or not, or her status is due to other reasons but today I am feeling very guilty about those things. I somewhere feel that I have done wrong to her and disturbed her personal life.
I am not seeking any advice here that whether I should tell these things or not to my parents, my college friends, to my wife in future. It is for sure, I won’t tell them. But I want that, that girl should know this. Frankly speaking even today I don’t have any guts to face her, tell her or even email her. I have now deleted my that fake gmail account.
I have used names of places and so much text here because I want that girl or her friends come to know about this and recognize & identify.
And then I started searching profiles of NRI girls and expressed interest in them. Later on my profile also got interests from NRI girls whom profiles were made by their parents. I used to look at their pics and then note down their contact numbers and then their email ids. Then I tried adding them in my contact list. Thus whenever their parents requested for further contacts I used to decline their profiles. These things were not regular but were somehow on weekend’s basis. It was the month of Jan, after semester registration when I got interest in my profile from a girl. She herself has created her profile. She was working in a pharmaceutical company at that time in Hauppauge in New York, US. She showed interest as I was from the same cast and from same state (and yes same hometown!). I didn’t reply to her interest as she was not too beautiful and her profile pics were average. Meanwhile I succeeded in getting gmail ids of some NRI girls and added them in my contact list. In this way I used to chat with them about education, likes, dislikes family and other stuff. But later on when they asked me to go ahead one step further (parents’ contact number, reference person, facebook account, linkedin id of mine n all) I tried to avoid them. Somehow they figured it out that I am not looking for genuine relationship and was doing this stuff all for fun, they blocked my email id.
Later on, that girl from New York sent me a reminder on my profile. This time I accepted her interest and started chatting by exchanging email ids. I figured out later that she was on facebook and was having a genuine profile on matrimony site. Then I blocked her on my facebook account before she can figure me out there.
Initially we chatted through matrimony site and later on with our email ids. I somehow convinced her that I am not on social media (facebook, linkedIn). Initially we used to chat like how we decided to put our profile on matrimony site for a big decision like a marriage and so on. Then about our education, families and all. I even also shared my fake employer and my address with her. I came to know that she completed her studies from Mumbai and was doing job in New York at that time since one and half years. Meanwhile she also told me that her cousin sister has completed her M.tech some years back from the same institute and she had visited the campus a couple of times in institute’s cultural fest (this time I feared that she will figure me out but came to know that her cousin graduated from the institute even before I got admission in it). Things went ahead like that and one day she asked me if she can call me on my mobile. First time I felt that things are going wrong and I should step back, but then I gave her my consent for the call and asked her to call me on my matrimony mobile number as I thought it would have fun and there is nothing wrong about it. She called me on the weekend and we talked for 3-4 minutes. Thus she started calling me on weekends and also have chats every alternate days. I also called her back a couple of times. As she was in US, I used to chat with her late in the night. At many occasions I went to lab for chatting as we were having LAN ban after midnight. Thus things went ahead and we did all this stuff for next 3-4 months. When my intern time came, I decided that I will go to New York in my internship and will meet her. But this didn’t work as I couldn’t get foreign intern.
In my fourth year she was going home (coming to India) to her sister’s marriage and asked me if I can also come to the hometown at the same time and if we and our parents can meet. But at that time I convinced her that I will be on official tour in some metro and will not be able to make it.
We were in touch on regular basis and she started calling me after every 2-3 days. Things went like this for couple of months. I don’t know if she was serious and completely in love with me or not but I was happy as friends and wing mates came to know that one NRI girl from my hometown is my girlfriend now. She even removed her profile from matrimony site and also asked me to remove it as we were in the serious relationship. But I convinced her that I won’t look for other profiles and will remove my profile soon. One day she asked me for video calling on Skype. I feared that she will figure me out that I am a student and staying in hostel. Also my roommate will also come to know. Then I decided that whenever I will have a video chat with her on Skype I will move to my computer lab and told her that I was calling from my office. Meanwhile she also told me that her parents asked for two proposals of NRI doctors but she refused them and she had shown my pics to her parents and they liked it. Her parents were happy that I was from the same caste and city.
These things went for some more months and I was talking to her for more than seven months.
One day she called me in the afternoon (I was in the lecture at that day and it was midnight in the US) and told me that she is coming to India in next month (for Diwali) and wants to meet me this time. She also told me that she will first come to Mumbai from US to meet me and her college friends and then will go to hometown. She also asked me to come to my hometown so that our parents can meet this time on the Diwali occasion. I was shocked for the same but I agreed. We also had chat that day; she was coming in the third week of October, 23 days from that day.
We talked every alternate day on phone for these days and she was excited that I will also be coming to my hometown on the Diwali and will meet her parents. She even identified a restaurant in Mumbai where we would spend our time before she would fly to our hometown.
A day before her flight she called me and asked me to receive her on the airport. I agreed to it. That night I was too much tensed as I had to go airport to receive her. I feared that how I will face her and what I will tell her. My friends thought that it was the end semester and the upcoming placements which had worried me.
She didn’t call me the other day before she boarded her flight, but in boxed me two messages:
reached airport, ready to fly. love you!! (It was delivered late in the night)
landed at dubai. will reach Mumbai @ 2:30, see you at airport. Hugs n kisses! (It was delivered at 9:16 am in my mobile on next day)
I was in my hostel room when I received her messages. I didn’t reply her when I read her messages. I was worried and confused that what I would do next. I sat for half an hour in my hostel room and then came out of it, went to MB (where it all started) and then to lake side. I spent 20-25 minutes there and came back to my hostel room. I switched off my mobile (matrimonial mobile); broke the sim card, opened my laptop and blocked her on my email id and removed my profile from the matrimony site. I don’t know why I did those things but it was just that whatever came in my mind at that time I did it. Even today, I don’t know what happened afterwards when she arrived in Mumbai.
After this, I was not feeling good for three-four days. I even didn’t go to my home on Diwali in spite of my railway reservations. I lied to my parents that I need to focus on my upcoming placements. After few days I involved myself fully in studies, deadlines for submission of course projects and other things.
Later on I got busy in my exams, placements, celebrations for getting a job on seventh day and then in BTP. At sometimes I thought I would login and check my fake gmail id but I kept myself away from doing it.
Before 3-4 days of leaving the hostel (completion of B. Tech.) I made my mind that I would check my fake gmail id and her facebook account and also it had been more than seven months of her arrival day in Mumbai, so everything would be normal. I was shocked when I saw her status on gmail and fb as:
“Jatane ki baat nahi thi, unke dil tak jaana tha….. Lambi doori tayh karne me waqt to lagta hae. why you betrayed me….what I did wrong to you”
The date of updating the above status on fb was five months back.
But then I decided I won’t think about this too much and will move on. I completed my B. Tech. and then joined the firm where I was placed. I never thought much about it after I started my corporate life.
Today I came to know about our institute’s convocation in August month through my friend. This coming event reminded of my college days. And again I made my mind that I would login my that fake gmail id. I was feeling very bad when I found that her (girl’s) status was still same (till today!) as it was 13 months back.
“Jatane ki baat nahi thi, unke dil tak jaana tha….. Lambi doori tayh karne me waqt to lagta hae. why you betrayed me….what I did wrong to you”
I don’t know what has happened to that girl, she got married or not, or her status is due to other reasons but today I am feeling very guilty about those things. I somewhere feel that I have done wrong to her and disturbed her personal life.
I am not seeking any advice here that whether I should tell these things or not to my parents, my college friends, to my wife in future. It is for sure, I won’t tell them. But I want that, that girl should know this. Frankly speaking even today I don’t have any guts to face her, tell her or even email her. I have now deleted my that fake gmail account.
I have used names of places and so much text here because I want that girl or her friends come to know about this and recognize & identify.
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